Just when I thought it couldn't get worse with Vito it did. This time not really his "fault" but due to a change at work. It's kennel cough time at work like it happens every year around this time. Once one dog brings it into the kennel, everyone gets it. Unfortunately this time it was decided that no pet dogs are allowed in the building for at least two weeks. In years past risk of coming is always to the pet dogs as of course we can't make the kennel more sick than it already is. I've crossed fingers and toes every year in hopes that my crew never got sick so that I wouldn't have to figure out what to do with them. And we luckily survived each time. But now that wasn't even an option. Pet dogs are a privilege, not a right.
So we're trapped. Let Vito panic for hours and hours on end and likely have an actual heart attack, or stop coming to work. My dog or my job.
Thankfully I do have some PTO, not that I wanted to use it for the next 2 weeks. Technically a lot of it is supposed to be saved for my "forced" vacation time that happens for 2 weeks over the Christmas holidays when the kennel is closed and all service dog trainees go to foster homes.
And thankfully Adam was able to get someone to switch shifts with him so that he doesn't have to work until 3-11pm. So Vito and the other 2 get to spend time at home while I work half shifts at work all this week and next, and race home so that the longest Vito is left is 15min.
And of course it rears depressing thoughts on living with a dog with separation anxiety. You're always trapped. Never able to go out with the husband to see a movie or even go grocery shopping. Someone is ALWAYS with the dog. Summers are the best as at least there are a few dog friendly places you can go. If you want to deal with the car anxiety which you've already decided is the lesser of the 2 evils. Shorter in duration at least.
I know that if Vito weren't MY dog that the most humane thing would be to let him go. Nobody should have to deal with a dog with severe separation anxiety. It's not healthy for the people to work so hard to prevent it for a decade or so of their lives and it's not healthy for the dog to be in so much panic. Medication and behavioral modification can do wonders for many dogs with SA. But not Vito. If I were to die I've already told Adam that he has my permission, and my urging, to let Vito go. A person on their own can't help Vito feel safe all the time. And finding a home that can would be impossible and I would say unethical.
But although my thoughts keep drifting to the day that a decision might be necessary, we're not there. I have never loved another dog as much as I love Vito. And we can make it work.
Post note:
The reason I wrote this serious post is I want to make sure dog trainers, rescues, and pet people are aware of how serious of a disease separation anxiety is. It is not to be taken lightly due to how incredibly difficult it is to manage it and prevent panic attacks and even possible injury to the dog in their panicking. I would not hesitate to immediately put a dog on medication and immediately start a training protocol to try and help a dog as fast a possible. But not everybody has the means to make living with such a dog work. And then you have to consider the ethics of having a dog in the world who is having full blown panic attacks for hours every. single. day. And that decision is serious, sad, and very real.
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